you did what to your hair???

so a discussion came up around friends about feminine standards of beauty... and one of my friends who is natural like me went on to say that she has surpassed european standards of beauty because she is no longer a victim of the creamy crack. now you may be wondering well she is right... well folks this is where i beg to differ... despite the fact i haven't permed my hair in the past 3 years {well august 21st makes 3 years.. lol} doesn't mean i'm exempt from these ideals of beauty. society doesn't frown upon natural hair... it frowns up "nappy" hair... below is a picture of *cough* "acceptable" natural hair...



i love amel larrieux and everyone should buy her albums... lol anyway... back to the story at hand... you see her hair... i think its crazy that many people tell others they shouldn't go natural if their hair isn't going to look that way... now i'm goin to show you a pic of what many people fear how their hair will look natural..



now i see nothing wrong with that style but, show this picture to a little girl she will say that this lady would need to comb her hair and that it looks terrible... show them the picture of amel larrieux and many little kids will exclaim how pretty her hair is... what is the difference between the two pictures... there is none! you can't control how your hair looks before birth just suck it up and accept it...

now i'm about to show a pic of me that i used to not like... i always saw something wrong with my hair... but, i look at it now and admire how pretty my hair is...



it saddens me sometimes when i realize how these subjective ideals of beauty affects me. no one ever wants say that about themselves... and it affects me now even more than ever now that my hair is loc'd. i must have my hair retwisted every 2 weeks or i feel like my hair is not acceptable to leave the house... and when i tell someone about my situation their response is always "that's how dreads are suppose to look" i don't have dreads... there is a distinct difference between dreads and locs... i give mad respect to any female that dreads her hair because she is TRULY not following conventional standards of beauty.. here's a working definition of both so you better understand how they are not the same...

Dreads

to refrain from using conditioners, brushing and/or combing. This method created dreadlocks that varied greatly in size, width, shape, length, and texture. The method has come to be known as "Organic," "Neglect," or "Patience". Similarly, "Freeform" dreadlocks are created by allowing the hair to weave naturally together into locks of varying sizes. However, freeform locks are patterned to a degree, as the hair is pried (not parted, just pulled apart in "chunks") into fairly determined sections after washing, as opposed to organic dreadlocks that tend to bifurcate and coalesce haphazardly.

Locs

can be formed by evenly sectioning and styling the loose hair into braids, coils, twists, or using a procedure called dread perming. Backcombing, twist-and-rip, and twist-and-pin are also some of the more popular methods of achieving dreadlocks. One can also utilize tool techniques such as a latch-hook (also known as interlocks). Once installed, the dreads are groomed every few weeks, typically once a month using either natural or commercial products.

so as you can read... dreads are the more live and let be kinda method... whereas locs people actually use product, wash their hair... and care for it...

it hurts me to say but, i unfortunately follow preconceived notions of beauty but, admitting it is the first step to recovery... now i'm not going to stop loc-ing my hair... i infact have developed a bond with each and every loc in my head and have a deeper understanding of what it means to be jamece. now i still will get my nails done, hair maintenance, eyebrows done... lol but, i understand i'm not doing this just for me... i'm doing it to fit in with society and follow their standards of what it means to be beautiful as well.

you can't fault me tho... it's only human nature... heck even animals do it... look at the peacock for example... all those pretty feathers are there just to attract the attention of potential suitor... some peacocks are born with bright, colorful big feathers... others not so much... but, just like the peacock we must learn to make do with what we have and be only what we can be... you...

well... i'm done on my soap box for now... till next time folks... one!

-mece<3

i'm me.....

hello all!!! now, i know i put a post up this morning but, i just wanted to get some stuff off my chest and blog from the heart...



my name is jamece renee hackett and i can only be her... i hate when people try to mold you into the friends that they want you to be... i can't do anything but be myself... no i will not fall for peer pressure... anything that jamece does is because jamece wants to do it on her terms... {sorry for speaking in third person i hate when ppl do that too.. lol}

i write in lowercase to show the world that i view everyone on the same playing field... i don't view any person above anyone else... i view everyone on the same standards...

i love to dance... may it be we are going out or we are in the house i'm going to enjoy myself...

i love being around good company... the best group of friends are the ones you can joke around with then have a deep intellectual discussion with them right after...

i love being spontaneous... i hate people who are sticks in the mud and just want to lie in bed all day watching tv... there's way more to life than that...

i hate when ppl make excuses for why they do certain things like "i smoke cuz im sticking to the man"... naw n**** you smoke because you enjoy the feeling of getting high... stop lying to the world and stop being an imaginary intellectual...

on the same note i hate ppl who are natural but, think they are better than everyone else because they did it... i decided to loc my hair for me... i didnt do it to put on a facade of being intellectually deep or to fit in with a group of people because at the end of the day if you don't do for you then there is no purpose...

i hate people who are greek and think they are better than everyone else cuz they pledged... at the end of the day work needs to be done... if you aren't down for that why do you have those letters...

i love me... everything i do is for the advancement of me... if you don't have the self love to want to motivate yourself how on earth can you be a role model to others...

i'm proactive... if there is a will there is always a way... don't make poor excuses of why you can't do something...

lastly.. work hard but, play harder... you only have one life to live... wasting it all on the chase for money is pointless... find your dreams and go after them because no one knows you better than you...

now i know i sort of went on a bit of a tangent but, i can be me... i'm hold fast to all these points i stated and more... come correct or don't come at all... i know many people in life only mission is to find that missing piece... their {s o u l m a t e} that will come when you discover who you are... people don't want to be around lost souls.. find out what you want for you and the rest will fall into place...

so as we live this thing call life remember you can only be you.... nothing more.. nothing less... don't let anyone change that and remember love thyself... one

-mece<3

I'm just me... - Ciara

all about me!

69 Confession Questions
These are my confessions...
1. The phone rings; who do you want it to be?	my mom
2. When shopping at the grocery store, do you return your cart?	yes i do
3. In a social setting, are you more of a talker or a listener?	probably a talker...
4. Do you take compliments well?	yes i do... thank you... lol
5. Do you play Sudoku?	no
6. If abandoned alone in the wilderness, would you survive?	yes
7. Do you like to ride horses?	i have rode a horse....
8. Did you ever go to camp as a kid?	yes i did... camp vacamas and camp mariah
9. What was your favorite game as a kid?	duck duck goose
10. If a sexy person was pursuing you, but you knew he/she was married, would you go for it?	no... im never the one to break up a happy home....
11. Have you lied to get out of a date?	yes... lol
12. Could you date someone with different religious beliefs than you?	yes
13. Do you like to pursue or be pursued?	i like being pursued...
14. Use three words to describe yourself?	sweet, intelligent, down to eath
15. Do any songs make you cry?	yes....
16. Are you continuing your education?	unfortunately yes... lol Fall 2011 here i come...
17. Do you know how to shoot a gun?	yes
18. If your house was on fire, what would be the first thing you grabbed?	cell phone
19. How often do you read books?	no not enough
20. Do you think more about the past, present or future?	present
21. What is your favorite children's book?	the foot book by dr. suess
22. What color are your eyes?	brown
23. How tall are you?	five feet tall and three fourths of an inch
24. Where is your dream house located?	NY
25. Do you have a secret fetish?	i guess lips... lol
26. Have you tried sushi?	yes
27. Have you ever taken pictures in a photo booth?	yes
28. When was the last time you were at Olive Garden?	i want to say last summer... lol
29. When was the last time you were at Church?	its been a while but, march
30. Where was the furthest place you traveled today?	to work...
31. What was your favorite job?	vicky secrets and i still work there...
32. Do you like mustard?	yes i do
33. Do you prefer to sleep or eat?	sleep
34. Do you look like your mom or dad?	mom
35. How long does it take you in the shower?	5mins
36. Can you do the splits?	no
37. What movie do you want to see right now?	inception
38. If you could fast forward your life, would you?	naw
39. What did you do for New Year's?	dc clubbing with @tropicool
40. Do you think The Grudge was scary?	no....
41. Could you relate to a character in Mean Girls?	naw... lol
42. Do you own a camera phone?	currently no... {sadface}
43. Do you have an "ex box" with pics and letters from past lovers?	no...
44. Was your mom a cheerleader?	yes... lol
45. What's the last letter of your middle name?	e
46. Do you like your middle name?	yes i do...
47. How many hours of sleep do you get a night?	about 6
48. Do you like care bears?	they are ok... lol
49. What do you buy at the movies?	icee and bunch a crunch
50. Do you know how to play poker?	no
51. Do you wear your seatbelt?	only in the front seat... i kno bad habit...
52. What do you wear to sleep?	t-shirt and shorts
53. Anything big ever happen in your hometown?	yes... i'm from the city that never sleeps
54. How many meals do you eat a day?	2
55. Is your tongue pierced?	no
56. Ever meet anyone you met on myspace?	besides my friends.... no
57. Do you read myspace bulletins?	i did when i had one
58. Do you like funny or serious people better?	funny
59. Ever been to L.A.?	no
60. Did you eat a cookie today?	no
61. Do you use cuss words in other languages?	no
62. Do you steal or pay for your music downloads?	"steal" lqtm
63. Do you hate chocolate?	NO!
64. What do you and your parents fight about the most?	money
65. Are you a gullible person?	no
66. Do you need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be happy?	no
67. If you could have any job what would it be?	this job as a parole officer
68. Are you easy to get along with?	yes
69. What is your favorite time of day?	early evening...
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i'm not a toy....

good afternoon folks!!! so i came across this poem after reading the autobiography of bobby seale and i fell in love with it... i feel it perfectly describes how i feel towards the male species at this current time... we aren't play things... and i am not toy... you can just use me whenever you want to... and i will not go after you if have done me wrong... i can't speak for all females but, i can speak for me... you can not play me and expect to get away scott free... now i know your probably thinking that i'm crazy now... lol but, everyone knows that i am perfectly sane... lol so don't try that... but, just read the poem and share your thoughts below in my "i think" section... til next time loves

-mece <3



Burn Baby Burn
By La Belle Rouge

don’t you drop no sweet nothins
down into my blushin ear
there aint nothin you can say
that I wanna hear

more than fire on my red head
it’s arson of the soul
I could love you ‘til you’re dead
and you’ve lost all self-control

think you can cuff and dominate
my blazing hot desire
but Baby, you’ll get burned
if you play with fire

don’t wanna hear those little lies
you tell all the other girls
you’re in for a surprise
if you fall into my world

don’t use that “L” word
cause I know you really don’t
and don’t think the “F” word
cause we haven’t and we won’t

I’m tellin you right now
I’m more than just a pretty toy
put on this Earth, Mister
for some man to enjoy

you need to know just how I feel
Baby, or you’ll wish you knew
playing hide and seek.... no deal
aint playing lovers’ games with you

could dance a sultry tango together
under the streetlight after dark
do all the sexy things I do
and light your manly spark

not a place on my warm body
that wouldn’t give you an invite
not a place in your soul
my hot lips couldn’t ignite

you’re plenty old enough
should have already learned
play with a woman's fire, Baby
and you’re gonna get burned

heavy on the mind... heavy on the heart....

hello loves.... as you can see i am keeping my promise and yes i have been bloggin more often!!! {go me!} but, i want to take a stance away from the all the light hearted issues i've been discussing and actually talk about something that deeper... so please no negative comments.. i'm just being true to me now....

i feel society is taking a weird twist on what it means to be an adult. parents are getting younger again... people are growing up faster... youths have more responsibilities... the world is just in a crazy place right now... like take me for example... {i'm probably the poster child for growing up too fast... lqtm} but, from working two jobs... living all alone down here... very little family support... life can get sad and depressing... thats why i try to live each day to the fullest...



it saddens me when i see a small girl pregnant... and people just turn their noses up at her... no one wants to reach out and offer her support... heck i know how that feels and i've never been pregnant... try riding the BX14 with a toddler and an infant at 12 and see how people treat you... its terrible. we as society are doing this... we place an emphasis on sexual liberations and how money is everything... if all you tell a child is "sex sells" don't be mad about the outcome.

and with increasingly younger parent we now have this shift of parent wanting to relive their now missed childhood at 35-40 when then makes it hard for every party involved. take me for example.. my mom wanted to live her life that meant no teenage years for me... instead living the normal 13-18 lifestyle i was cooking dinner for a small family as if i had 4 kids of my own... that's #nobueno.... what sometimes happens in these situations is then one of the other children then themselves becomes pregnant and starts the cycle all over.... or worse the oldest child resent her family and leaves to want nothing to do with them... both are unfortunate scenarios...

i never knocked karrine steffans for the path she took in life... i actually could relate to her... we can't get mad at the cards life dealt to her... cause life has dealt me those very same cards... the only difference between the two of us... i just learned how to plan my hand better... and even tho she may feel she sexually liberated.. she isn't... she just continues to live the facade to make her feel her life is whole and complete...

whenever you see me deep in thought, i'm usually think how am i going to accomplish this... or how am i going to pay that... i tend to have alot on my plate but, i'm just good at masking it to u the public... even my closest friends rarely see me break a sweat... but, whats heavy on the mind always leads to extra pounds on the heart...



you always think... why was life played out this way for me and not everyone else too... why me??? you grow to understand that this rainy season makes you a stronger far better person but, sometime.... its depressing...

as i enter this new phase of my life... i'm going to help ease some of these pounds off both my mind and heart... but, i fear it may be here a few more years... i guess i can only hope to grow into a better person..

what a girl want....

so today i was listening to B2K's {yes they are one of my guilty pleasures.. lol} what a girl wants and they sang about all the things that they believed a female wants in a man...

despite my love for b2k... they were singing {i guess slash rapping for lil fizz} all lies...

well not complete lies... i do want "A guy to be there for {me}..." and "Honesty, Love and a Friend...".. the lies i'm discussing is the part where they claim they know exactly what a girl wants...

TELL ME WHAT A GIRL WANTS OMARION?????

the whole song all they did was bash the failed relationship the girl was currently in but, they never offer advice on how they would remedy the situation... they just simply stated that they knew what a girl wants... and i feel personally most men out there do the same thing... they listen to this songs and think ok... i need to do this to keep my girl... or if i buy her that i will have her forever...

i guess for those simple females those tricks work... but, see me... i'm more complex than that...

i want someone i can laugh with.. talk to about current events and the day... someone that is more than just there for me but, genuinely supports everything that i do... someone who loves me for me... someone i can just be myself with and not worry if they cast judgment cuz i know they wouldn't...

now of course they have to be attractive in my eyes as well too... lol but, i think all the above statements aren't too much to ask for... i don't want a man with money to blow cuz then he thinks he can buy my love.... FALSE SIR!!! nor do i want a cocky man... i need time in the mirror too... hello? lol so as i embark in the world i want a companion who can keep up with me... i can't be dealing with no slackers and you can't skate on my love... you gotta pledge it out mister!!! lol but, in return i hope to be able to offer the same to you too {hypothetical boo} lol

so b2k as much as i love you guys cuz you remind me of my middle school days... i must let you know that it takes much more to love a woman... but then again... they did sing about a girls needs... not a womans... lol

I will leave you with a few a my fave love songs... just look below... i'm outta 500 guys... till next time...

Spend my life with you -- eric benet and tamia

wreckless love -- alicia keys

all my life -- k-ci and jojo

-mece<3

stuff i learn from movies...

hello all!!!! lol being the movie buff that i am.. i decided to dedicate a whole blog about things i learned from watching movies!!! Here's an email i received and i thought it was hilarious, so i decided to share with you folks...enjoy!

Here are 50 lessons learned from movies:

1. If being chased through town, you can usually take cover in a passing St Patrick’s Day parade – at any time of the year.

2. All beds have special L-shaped top sheets that reach up to armpit level on a woman but only waist level on the man lying beside her.

3. All grocery shopping bags contain at least one stick of French bread.

4. Once applied, lipstick will never rub off – even while scuba diving.

5. The ventilation system of any building is a perfect hiding place. No one will ever think of looking for you in there and you can travel to any other part of the building without difficulty.

6. Should you wish to pass yourself off as a German officer, it will not be necessary to speak the language. A German accent will do.

7. The Eiffel Tower can be seen from any window of any building in Paris.

8. A man will show no pain while taking the most ferocious beating but will wince when a woman tries to clean his wounds.

9. When paying for a taxi, never look at your wallet as you take out a note – just grab one at random and hand it over. It will always be the exact fare.

10. If you lose a hand, it will cause the stump of your arm to grow by 15cm.



11. Mothers routinely cook eggs, bacon and waffles for their family every morning, even though the husband and children never have time to eat them.

12. Cars and trucks that crash will almost always burst into flames.

13. A single match will be sufficient to light up a room the size of a football stadium.

14. Medieval peasants had perfect teeth.

15. All single women have a cat.

16. Any person waking from a nightmare will sit bolt upright and pant.

17. One man shooting at 20 men has a better chance of killing them all than 20 men firing at one.

18. Creepy music coming from a graveyard should always be closely investigated.

19. Most people keep a scrapbook of newspaper cuttings – especially if any of their family or friends has died in a strange boating accident.



20. It does not matter if you are heavily outnumbered in a fight involved martial arts – your enemies will wait patiently to attack you one by one by dancing around in a threatening manner until you have knocked out their predecessor.

21. During a very emotional confrontation, instead of facing the person you are speaking to, it is customary to stand behind them and talk to their back.

22. When you turn out the light to go to bed, everything in your room will still be clearly visible, just slightly bluish.

23. Dogs always know who’s bad and will naturally bark at them.

24. When they are alone, all foreigners prefer to speak English to each other.

25. Rather than wasting bullets, megalomaniacs prefer to kill their arch-enemies using complicated machinery involving fuses, pulley systems, deadly gases, lasers and man eating sharks that will allow their captives at least 20 minutes to escape.

26. Having a job of any kind will make all fathers forget their son’s eighth birthday.

27. All bombs are fitted with electronic timing devices with large red readouts so you know exactly when they’re going to go off.

28. It is always possible to park directly outside the building you are visiting.

29. A detective can only solve a case once he has been suspended from duty.



30. If you decide to start dancing in the street, everyone you bump into will know all the steps.

31. If you decide to hack into the CIA database, all you need is a laptop and an internt connection. it will usually take about 10 seconds to get into the system and you will usually be undetected.

32. No matter how dirty the water is, it is still possible for you to jump in and open your eyes underwater. You’ll be able to see everything clearly and your eyes wont hurt.

33. In every bar you go into, the bartender will always know how to make any and every long named drink of your choice.

34. When walking in a quiet and dark area, its only fair to ask if someone is there.

35. It’s always possible to outrun a explosion/fireball by running straight towards the camera, sometimes in slow motion.

36. The prologue and/or epilogue, when applicable, is always narrated by a soothing calm monotone voiced individual, preferably Morgan Freeman.

37. Never be afraid to jump off of a building into an open dumpster, as the contents will most likely always be clean, fluffy garbage bags.

38. Most police officers HATE partners. If they do have a partner that they trust and like, he/she will die.

39. The last bad guy in a shootout is too tough to die fast like everyone else. He must pretend to give up or be dead, and suddenly try to shoot one of the good guys. Then and only then can he die quickly.

40. Cars can screech tires and burn rubber even if they’re on gravel or sand.

41. Everybody’s phone number starts with 555.

42. Monsters always make noise before attacking.

43. If you have face stubble….you have a dark mysterious past.

44. Ancient Romans had English accents.

45. Nobody has morning breath in the movies…the first thing a couple does is kiss each other when they wake up.

46. All helocopter crashes occur on the other side of the mountain.

47. Computers in sci-fi films have either male or female voices that speak in a calm, reassuring tone even in the most extreme situations.

48. In high speed chases, no car ever runs out of gas.

49. Funerals usually happen when it rains. The hardest, bravest, coolest person is usually the one without an umbrella or hat and usually stands alone either to the side or behind everyone.

And last but not least....

50. If your female who has never been on a date or even been hit on, don’t worry. All it takes is some contacts, new hair styles, and new clothes to make you the baddest bitch in the town.

sir... i don't need a sponsor....

Morning everyone!!!!

sooooo... idk if you guys have been living under a rock these past few months but, there is song thats slowly getting air play... its sponsor by ms. teairra mari



this song pretty much is about a girl looking for an attractive man with lots of money willing to spend it all on her in exchange for NOTHING.... now she may break him off here or there if you buys her that big name stuff but, he never asks... LOL
havent heard the song....well here it is...



now me personally... im not too big on using a guy for his funds... but, thats just the good nature in me... but, if that's what home girls perrogative is and he is fine sponsoring her then why should we judge her?

BET recently banned the showing of the video above because they felt it would portray a negative image of woman in the media...

REALLY BET????? do you really want to go there????? after the plethora of videos i seen growing up like mystikal's "shake it fast" or "danger" or even trey songz "invented sex" you didnt stop to think anywhere down the line that those videos may be portraying women in a bad light?

of course not its shown at 3am... women and children arent up at that hour...

lol j/k j/k... but, really why does the media feel that once a woman is vocal with her wants and needs then thats an issue? Now i'm not promoting that all women become gold diggers... DON'T DO IT BOO!!!! lol but, i'm just sayin if thats her prerogative why cant we be ok with it... like even ciara's "ride" video was played for like one day on BET why can't "sponsor"??? and i personally feel that "ride" is doing the most... love the song but, hate the video.. lol but, have your own opinions...



i just want to know what you guys think... did BET do the right thing by banning the video? or do you think they are fighting the wrong battle? let me know your thoughts and i'll be back with more topics later!!!!

one!!!! muah ;^*
mece<3

as i turn the page....

hello all!

i'm going to try to blog everyday that i work... SOOOOOOO we shall see how long this lasts...

now, i know i normally discuss something relating to love, sex, or music... but, today i want to talk about me...{selfish post} lol

now i've been thrusted into the real world, i need to figure out what i am going to to do... and the job market is crappy... and i need a place to live for real... lol

so as the umd chapter in my life comes to a close i just want to take a few minutes to reminisce about those good ole days...

FRESHMAN YEAR


awww.... the good ole days....
~i was super excited because i was on my own and the school gave me a refund check lol.
~i got my first job at the north campus diner making sandwiches and wraps...
~i went to almost every stamp party there was...
~i met new people and made lasting friendships...
~elkton hall was where i called home room 5133!!! lol
~i walked to ihop from campus not knowing it was over a mile away...
~played in the sprinklers and the fountain on the mall at 5a
~blasted music from my room until 3am and my RA was right there next to me... lol {I <3 you JENN the best RA/CA there was}


SOPHOMORE YEAR


~lived in worcester 2nd floor!!!
~officially become a crim major...
~joined the CSA dance team... riddim ryderz!!!
~ditched the diner to make some panty money...
~met three people that made my sophomore year even more spontaneous... lol
~diner points baller... i took everyone to adeles...
~got my first little {hey whitney!!!}
~i always got in trouble with my RA for dancing in the hallway...
~learned how to travel from UMD to bmore and back for only 9 dollars... lol
~somehow... i knew where every house party was...
~discovered Mega Bus

JUNIOR YEAR
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~moved to the courtyards!!!!
~joined the BEST sorority in the world... ZETA PHI BETA SORORITY, INNNNNCORPORATED!!!!!
~become more involved on campus...
~made EVEN MORE friends
~started road trippin...
~got more stamps in my passport... went to costa rica
~fell in love with trey songz... {treyday <3}
~took one of the last pictures of k swift... RIP
~met travis of Gym Class Heroes
~mario sang a song to me... lol
~got promoted and demoted in the same year...lol
~was bitten by a spider and had to go to the hospital...
~couldn't talk for 2 weeks
~ and i was in a cast for 2 months...

SENIOR YEAR
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~realized how fast college had gone by and that i would no longer would be receiving refund checks... lol
~was on the hunt for a real job and home...
~took fun classes
~learned how to tap
~i discovered being greek is hard work
~finally went the mark and turtle
~went to a jay-z concert
~i turned 21... lol
~i discovered that you gotta do whats best for you...
~became a mixtape junkie....

LIFE AFTER COLLEGE


IDK what life may have in store for me now... but, i'm sure it will be great. I have big hopes and big dreams and i plan on accomplishing them all.... i hope that all of you are there as i turn the page to this next chapter in my life...

one! muah ;^*

don't trust them hoes....

Hello my loves... its been almost six months since i talk to y'all last.
so MUCH has happened but, now i'm back and i promise to write more often... lqtm

now back to my story at hand.... i've notice over this past year or so there is a new growing trend... this new phenomena is DUN DUN DUN... guys being false relationship with chicks.



now, i seen several girls be like "such and such is my boyfriend and i love him and what not" but, when you ask the guy he like "thats just my boo joint... i like her but, we ain't nothing serious shorty..."

look at my face folks...

DEAD

guys... men... boys... people with penises... GET IT TOGETHER!!!!! lqtm... stop leading these girls on cause it's not cute... not at all... if you don't the baggage of a serious relationship let homegirl know cuz, you're making her look silly.

ok now ladies... we got to do better ourselves... if you want something to be official... GET IT IN WRITING!!!! don't live in an imaginary la la world... cuz, honestly that makes you equally as guilty as ole boy over there...

people in general we just need to learn how to open up the lines of communication... just because your giving him that "GOOD GOOD" don't mean that your his girlfriend now... be open and honest with each other... and if you two cant talk honestly then you shouldn't be having sex in the first place... #justmythoughts

hopefully i was able to impart some pearls of wisdom to you for folks... comment below tell me how you feel!!! lol and i'll try to blog more often!

one folks! muah!